Outliers

Have you ever met anyone who always got a fair share of life? Someone whom you admire, or even envy, for the many great achievements that came their way? Or those who always get the better half of things? And, have you ever wondered, how did they do it? What makes them become what they're now?

These are the things that were being discussed in Outliers, which was written by Malcolm Gladwell. He pointed out that many successful people today, got where they are now, not really because they're smart or have that special capabilities, but rather they were given the opportunities. In other words, they happened to be at the right place at the right time.  

Of course, to qualify one has to have a certain level of intelligence or skill, but beyond that, what makes a successful person an outlier, depends mostly on the opportunities that were given to him, and how well he made use of it. For one, the environment where he came from plays a very important part. If he's from a rich family, his parents could afford to send him for extra classes to further polish up his skills, and thus trained him into a professional. Or, if he's poor, but were given the opportunities to spend at least 10,000 hours of practice on a certain task that he's interested in, he could master that skill and excel from the rest. That's how Mozart, or even Bill Gates got to where they were today. Another example would be if he's born at the right time, he would have the opportunity to participate in the more interesting things in life. The example given were those born at the beginning of the year were normally selected to be the team player (e.g hockey), because the cutoff date was in Dec, so naturally those born earlier in the year had the advantage of having a bigger built, and hence perform better. Naturally, they would be sent for more trainings (where the 10,000 hours rule came in), and further perfect their skills.

Indirectly, all these point to a fact that success could be attributed by many factors combined, and interestingly, it can be linked to our backgrounds, our environments, and how we decided to position ourselves in them. That's why, this gives us a new hope too, because we can be outliers too (or grow our children to be one), after we understand all the factors needed.

Source from http://www.thewisdomjournal.com/Blog/book-review-outliers-the-story-of-success

Well, I have not finished reading the book yet, but after reading the synopsis from here, I guess this basically summarized it all. It's also interesting to note that mostly successful people became what they were today because they have got help along the way. This reminds me about the story of the tortoise on the lamp post, from my parish priest during one of his sermons. The tortoise didn't get to the lamp post on its own, rather, it happened to be at the right place, at the right time, where someone picked it up and placed it there. So, we have to be grateful to the people in our lives, because without them, we'll not be where we're now. Not all those who has work extra hard made it after all. If we didn't get help along the way, would we still be here today? It's something for us to ponder...

Yes, indeed, as how Gladwell puts it: - No one, not rock stars, not professional athletes, not software billionaires, and not even geniuses - ever makes it alone.

How my girl nearly got me into trouble...

Yesterday after back from school, SY informed me that her school will have a party. She started asking me if I know how to make sandwiches. I told her I don't know. Then she said, "Then we buy lor!"
I was thinking - wah this girl thought everything can be bought!

Then she asked Hubby if he knows how to make sandwiches. To my surprise, hubby said yes. She was so happy and said, "Ok, so Daddy make sandwich".
The next question, "Daddy, do you know that sandwiches are triangle in shape?"
Daddy laughed out loud and said, "Yes".
Then she asked her Daddy what sandwiches is he going to make? Daddy answered Tuna.
Her next request, the sandwiches must be made in this order: - 1) peanut butter 2) tuna 3)butter
And she made Daddy repeat the sequences again to make sure he understood her (LOL!).

Will she start requesting for different designs if she know that all these are sandwiches too? 

I thot she was done with me, but she turned to ask, "Mommy, do you know how to make jelly?".
I said, "Yes".
She's very happy to hear that and said, "Good, Daddy made sandwiches, and Mommy made jellies".
Next came this, "Mommy, can you make jellies in pink color and heart shape?"
And SJ chipped in, "Mommy, I want blue color jellies".
I was stunned, and told her I'm not sure how to get blue color. Luckily she compromised and came out with green instead. I was relieved, and told them, should be no problem.
SY next ask SJ, "What shape you want your jellies to be?" Circle? Square?
SJ was angry and just said "No, I want green, green".
So I explained to SY that SJ might not understand yet, as she still haven't learn her shapes.

When I ask SY how much food to prepare, or when is it, she told me she didn't know but she'll find out. She mentioned something like Tuesday. I thot it would be next month or maybe a few weeks later.

Today, when I dropped them at school, SY's class teacher asked me if SY has told me about their class party next Tuesday. Then she went on to add that SY had volunteered her Mommy to make sandwiches! She asked me if I'm ok with that.

What else can I say? What would you do when you're in such a situation? Of couse I said yes, so as not to disappoint my girl. Luckily I asked if it's ok to prepare tuna sandwishes, or must it be vegetarian. As it turned out, her teacher replied that it's better not to be so obvious (as it's a vegetarian school), but egg and cheese are still acceptable.

There! Now I have to wake up earlier next Tuesday, unless I can figure out a way to keep them fresh if I make them the night before.

Uh... any volunteers?  Maybe I should educate my girl not to volunteer things for me in the future before asking me first. Now she's only 5, and it's only sandwiches. I hope she won't volunteer me for harder task when she grows bigger next time...